Investing In Others
Wednesday, December 28, 2016
The basic picture of a healthy relationship that comes to us out of Eden is that of two people clinging together, two people giving themselves to each other.
In a world full of self-absorbed people, it's easy to develop our own little self-contained universes: my personal space, my boundaries, my needs, my limits. Technology and affluence—especially in highly developed countries—have made us not nearly as dependent on others as we used to be. Sometimes, of course, this can be a good thing. After all, no one wants to be a burden on someone they love. But we are also more isolated and self-contained. The worst part is that because we invest less in the relationships that really count, we find ourselves emptier.
“A fundamental principle for dealing with hardship is, “We're all in this together.” ~ Sandy Shugart, PhD
God knew that we needed to be understood on the deepest level. That's why he performed the first marriage in the Garden of Eden. He joined Adam and Eve together to become one flesh. God designed them to cleave together, to cling to each other.
Our marriages need that kind of commitment today, and our friendships also need a greater measure of intimacy. We find nurture and healing only when we invest time and energy—when we invest ourselves—in other people. Meaningful relationships can develop only when we open ourselves up to others. The truth is, only to the degree that we become honest and transparent before them will we find nurture and healing.
Adam and Eve knew this kind of transparency. The Bible says, “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed” (Gen. 2:25, NKJV). Such nakedness is much more than two people without clothing. It is two people who are vulnerable before each other; who have nothing to hide.
That's the kind of relationship God established in the garden. In the beginning he made possible a healthy, honest, accepting companionship. And that's still his plan for each one of us today.
Healthy relationships are gifts that keep on giving, producing healing and wholeness for years to come. You can become a giver today.